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Encouraging Sharing in Toddlers: Helpful Phrases and Strategies

A structured overview of what credible sources and parent perspectives commonly say about this topic.

Quick answer

To encourage sharing, parents can teach toddlers phrases like, 'Can I have a turn next?' or 'I like sharing with you.' Alternatives include using phrases that express feelings and requests such as, 'I don’t like it when you take my toys' or 'Let’s take turns playing with this.' These phrases help toddlers develop social skills and emotional literacy.

At a glance

Most common inToddlers aged 1 to 3 years during playtime or sharing toys
Usually meansA toddler is learning to manage strong feelings and social interactions but lacks full self-regulation and language skills
What helps mostUsing simple, empathetic language to narrate feelings and set clear, consistent limits
AvoidReacting with anger or forcing sharing without acknowledging the child's feelings
Look closer ifSharing difficulties are persistent, aggressive, or accompanied by frequent tantrums beyond typical toddler behavior

Things to try now

What to do now

  • 11. Use calm, simple language to acknowledge your toddler’s feelings when they resist sharing.
  • 22. Teach and model specific phrases like 'Can I have a turn next?' and encourage your child to use them.
  • 33. Praise your toddler immediately when they share or use words to express their needs.

What to say

  • “I see you want to play with that toy. Can I have a turn next?”
  • “It’s okay to feel upset. We take turns so everyone gets a chance.”
  • “Thank you for sharing your toy with your friend! That was very kind.”

What to practice consistently

  • Regularly narrate your toddler’s feelings and experiences during calm moments to build emotional awareness.
  • Consistently use and encourage sharing phrases during playdates or sibling interactions.
  • Model calm responses to frustration and avoid reacting with anger or impatience.

What to avoid

  • Forcing sharing without acknowledging your child’s feelings, which can increase resistance.
  • Reacting with anger or frustration, which models poor emotional regulation.
  • Ignoring your toddler’s attempts to communicate their needs verbally.

These are common approaches mentioned in sources and by parents. They are informational, not prescriptive.

What this usually involves

  • Using short, clear phrases that name feelings and requests to build emotional literacy (ZERO TO THREE)
  • Modeling calm, neutral responses to frustration to teach emotional regulation (Child Mind Institute)
  • Setting simple, consistent limits with empathy, such as 'I won’t let you hit, but I’m here with you' (ZERO TO THREE)
  • Teaching specific sharing phrases like 'Can I have a turn next?' to encourage negotiation and conflict resolution (American Academy of Pediatrics)
  • Praising effort and positive social behavior to reinforce sharing and cooperation (Child Mind Institute)
  • Allowing toddlers to practice sharing in low-pressure situations and narrating their experiences

Related questions

How can I help my toddler manage frustration during sharing?

Teach simple calming strategies like deep breaths or asking for a break, and model calm emotional responses.

What are good ways to praise toddlers for sharing?

Praise effort and process, such as 'You waited your turn nicely,' rather than fixed traits.

When should I intervene in sibling disputes over toys?

Step in if conflicts become physical or emotionally harmful; otherwise, allow children to try resolving minor disputes themselves.

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2026-08-17

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