Do Photos Hurt Your Memory of the Moment?
What the research on photos and memory does and does not show for family life
Quick answer
It depends on what kind of memory you mean. Research suggests that taking photos you choose yourself may help you remember how things looked and may cost you some memory for what you heard. These studies were done in settings like museums, not with families.
At a glance
Things to try now
What to do now
- 1Open your camera roll and spend a few minutes looking through last month's photos of your kids
- 2Pick one recent photo and jot down what you remember hearing that day
- 3Before the next event, decide whether you most want to remember how it looked or how it sounded
What to say
- “Do you remember what we were laughing about when I took this one?”
- “Let's look at the pictures from your birthday and you can tell me what you remember.”
What to practice consistently
- Looking through photos with your child now and then
- Choosing a small number of shots on purpose
- Listening with the camera down when the sound is the part you want to keep
What to avoid
- Assuming a saved photo means the memory is safe if you never look at it again
- Feeling guilty about past photos because of a single study
- Reading museum findings as proof about your own family
These are common approaches mentioned in sources and by parents. They are informational, not prescriptive.
What parents say
We haven't published parent perspectives on this topic yet.
What this usually involves
- Separating memory for how something looked from memory for what was said or heard
- Noticing that being told what to photograph differs from choosing for yourself
- Remembering that the studies used museums and tours, not family moments
- Deciding what you most want to remember about a given moment
- Actually returning to photos instead of only collecting them
Related questions
In one experiment, simply planning which photos to take raised enjoyment about as much as taking them, so the camera does not always have to come out.
Henkel's view, reported by the Association for Psychological Science, is that photos support memory when people interact with them, and that piles of disorganized digital images discourage this.
Nine experiments by Diehl and colleagues found that taking photos usually raised enjoyment of positive experiences, with exceptions described in the paper.
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