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Supporting Toddlers in Regulating Emotions During Tantrums
A structured overview of what credible sources and parent perspectives commonly say about this topic.
Quick answer
Tantrums are common in toddlers aged 1 to 3 and reflect their emotional development. Common guidance includes staying calm, ensuring safety, acknowledging feelings after the tantrum, teaching calming techniques like deep breathing, and setting empathetic but firm limits.
At a glance
Things to try now
What to do now
- 1Stay calm and ensure your toddler is safe during the tantrum.
- 2After the tantrum subsides, briefly acknowledge their feelings: 'I know you were upset.'
- 3Redirect your toddler to a positive or calming activity.
What to say
- “I see you’re feeling really angry right now. It’s okay to feel that way.”
- “When you feel upset, you can take deep breaths or hold your stuffed animal.”
- “I won’t let you hit, but I’m here with you and we can calm down together.”
What to practice consistently
- Regularly narrate your toddler’s emotions during calm moments to build emotional vocabulary.
- Teach and practice simple calming strategies like deep breathing or asking for a break.
- Set consistent, simple limits with empathy to help your child feel safe.
What to avoid
- Reacting with anger or frustration toward the tantrum.
- Giving in to tantrum demands, which can reinforce the behavior.
- Using punishment as the primary method to address tantrums.
These are common approaches mentioned in sources and by parents. They are informational, not prescriptive.
What this usually involves
- Staying calm and ensuring the child’s safety during tantrums
- Avoiding reinforcement of tantrum behavior by not giving in to demands
- Acknowledging the child’s feelings briefly after the tantrum (e.g., 'I know you were upset')
- Teaching simple calming strategies such as deep breaths or squeezing a stuffed animal
- Narrating emotions during calm moments to build emotional literacy (e.g., 'You felt angry when it was time to leave the park')
- Setting simple, consistent limits with empathy (e.g., 'I won’t let you hit, but I’m here with you')
Related questions
Common triggers include hunger, tiredness, and transitions; observing patterns before tantrums can help identify specific triggers.
Simple techniques like deep breathing, squeezing a stuffed animal, or asking for a break are effective calming strategies.
If tantrums are very frequent, last over 15 minutes, involve self-injury, or significantly disrupt daily life, consulting a pediatrician is advised.
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From around the web
Temper Tantrums: Why They Happen and What to Do
Explains why tantrums occur and offers strategies for parents to manage them.
American Academy of Pediatrics
Helping Toddlers Manage Big Emotions
Discusses emotional regulation techniques suitable for toddlers.
Child Mind Institute
Tantrums and Emotional Development in Toddlers
Focuses on the emotional development behind tantrums and how to support toddlers.
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